Our weekday routine is down pat.
I get up at 6:15 on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, 6am on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I shower and have breakfast. At 7 the girls roll out of bed and head to the kitchen for breakfast, which I feed them while prepping C’s lunch, getting their clothes ready, and finishing my tea.
M eats with the girls and helps me get them dressed, then, while I’m brushing their hair he kisses us all goodbye and heads off to work. Shortly after I load the girls into the car and start the long morning commute.
I drop one off in one town, head 20 minutes away to drop the other off, then I head to Starbucks for my morning coffee and to get my own day started.
At 5:15 I retrace my steps, dashing from work to pick up Little L. As I’m hurrying to daycare M is making his way to C’s school to pick her up. We meet up at home around 6pm — just in time to feed the girls and get them ready for bed.
On nights when M can’t pick C up, I have to go from daycare to the school and then back south to our home. We get there around 6:45, making the evening a tad more challenging, but doable nonetheless.
When I go out of town things get a bit more hairy.
To get both girls to school and daycare on time, M has to be late for work. While L can be dropped off early, there is no early care for C. 8:30 is the earliest she can be dropped off, meaning there’s no way for M to be at work before 9. And in order to be at daycare by 5:30, he has to leave work by 4:45, which makes for a very short work day. Not ideal for those lawyer types.
Once in a while when I have to be out of town for a conference or a work trip we make it work. We call in help — relying on family and friends to collect one child while M is picking up the other. It works for a day here or a day there, but it’s not something we like doing often.
It’s looking like we’re going to have to get used to it.
The Life Coach program that I want to attend is located in Sacramento, about a two hour drive from here. There are four three day seminars that have to be taken on site. Add to that a blog conference or two — key if I want to make a name for myself as a social media career coach — and now we’re talking 6 trips, 6 times when I really throw my family’s routine for a loop.
It’s the constant struggle that moms face. My dreams and aspirations versus the good of the family.
We’ll plan, we’ll get help, we’ll prep the girls and make it work. It won’t be easy, but it won’t be the end of the world either. And in the end it’ll be well worth it.
I’ll get to spend at least 12 uninterupted nights in a hotel room.
I mean… I’ll have a career that allows me to be both fulfilled and the kind of mom I aspire to be. Ahem. Right. That’s totally why it’s worth it.