Have you ever found yourself standing at a crossroad? Virtual or real, it’s all the same really.
You’re there and there are options. And you can really go in any direction, because, what’s to stop you?
Do you take the path expected of you? Dictated by life, circumstance, societal expectations?
Do you take the path that calls to your heart? Dictated by childhood dreams and hopes?
How about the path that calls to your head? The rational path. The one that makes sense financially, feasibly, logically? The one that works for your whole family even if it denies the path your heart would take?
It’s paralyzing, the crossroad. While you’re standing there it’s so tempting to turn around and just go back the way you came, down the known road, back to where you understand what’s expected of you and what you need to do to meet those expectations. That known road calls to you like a cozy comforter waiting to wrap you up in certainty and soothe you with familiarity.
At the same time, it’s also exciting that crossroad. Adventure awaits after that first step. Adventure fraught with surprises and challenges, sure, but who doesn’t crave some adventure in their lives, even at cost? Isn’t that why we read, to live adventure and uncertainty vicariously? When you stand at the crossroads yourself there’s no need for vicarious living any more. Experiences can come first hand.
The problem with all of the road options that face us at the crossroads is that each comes with a toll.
What will you have to give up when you head in one direction? Which dreams will suffer or be need tossed all together?
Sadly the roads can’t all be taken at once. Choices have to be made.
So how do you choose which dreams to forfeit so that new futures can be forged? How do you let go of resentment when you feel pushed down one road and dreams are being forfeited for you? Does putting your whole heart into the path you chose help release that resentment? Does letting go of childhood expectations help?
Crossroads are funny, paralyzing places. They’re terrifying to stand in, and even scarier to leave.
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