“Balance is never letting anyone love you more than you love yourself.”
I heard that and something clicked. In my eternal quest for balance in my chaotic life, I’ve always looked for everything to be balanced inside my head, inside me, but what if that quote illustrates the simple central notion to balance? What if instead of everything being balanced within me, it’s about being balanced within versus without?
- Never letting others believe in you more than you believe in yourself.
- Never letting others challenge you more than you challenge yourself.
- Never letting others expect more or less of you than you expect of yourself.
It’s not just about all the things in your head and your heart being balanced against each other, it’s about you being in balance with the world pushing up against you.
I headed up to bed after the movie ended, my head spinning with the revelation.
You don’t balance in a void. You balance within your world. There’s the world and there’s you. The two halves of the scales have to match.
I’ve always thought that finding balance was something that happened inside, but really what you have to dig deep to find is the counter pressure to what the world is throwing at you. You can only feel where that pressure is hitting when you stop to focus on it. Taking time to listen and take stock helps you work thought the noise and the chaos. A whining child is an overwhelming annoyance until you focus and discover what is causing the distress and the ensuing noise. Once addressed – hunger, exhaustion, frustration – the annoyance disappears. The counter pressure has been applied.
“Who is expecting what and how does it compare to what I’m expecting of myself?”
Answer that question honestly and you’ll be on the way to finding that coveted balance.