I’m willing to bet good money, or at least some of the fantabulous chocolate cupcakes that I made this evening, that at one point or another during your teen years you swore, or even maybe yelled, that you would never do what your parents did or be like your parents were.
Am I right?
I attended another one of the preschool mom’s meetings today and we touched on the topic of the kinds of parents we want to be. I’d say we covered the topic, but really who could possibly cover such a loaded subject in a mere hour and a half.
We started by going around and sharing the good things that our parents did that we’d want to do now that we were parents ourselves. Not the bad things. Those were all too easy to come up with. But the good things, the things that helped us get through our childhoods, our teenage hoods, and even now in our adulthoods.
Some of the women there struggled a bit to pinpoint one or two things. Not that they had bad childhoods or that their parents failed at their jobs, just that it was hard to hit on one specific thing. And yes, there was some ugliness and pain that was dug up. But for the most part the stuff that was shared was inspirational and started a great discussion on parenting.
We all come into this with our own personal baggage. How we turn that baggage to our advantage determines the kind of parent we can be.
So how about you? What good things did your parents do that you would like to do now that you are a parent?
For the record, the thing that my mother did that I am actively trying to emulate is making me always feel like I could try anything. Failure or success didn’t matter, trying did. My mother always made me feel like it was safe and great to try new things. She was there to comfort me if I failed and there to celebrate with me when things went well. Knowing that she was always there no matter what gave me the courage to spread my wings and let them carry me wherever my heart chose. I’ll always be grateful for that and I hope I’ll be successful in doing the same for my children.