We made it to 3.5 unscathed. Whoopee.

standard October 13, 2008 7 responses

Stop me if you’ve heard this one before. Sweet, complacent preschooler wakes up one morning and point blank refuses to do whatever her parents want her to do at any moment, no matter what threats, promises, or even bribes are extolled. Familiar to anyone?

Now I know why 3 year olds drive their parents crazy. I could handle outright tantrums. Duh, walk out of the room and eventually the kid gets bored and gives up. But defiance? Pretending not to hear repeated requests? Non stop pouting? Turning into a limp noodle whenever someone tries to pick you up to make you do whatever it is that you find so distasteful? Mouthiness? Never ending grumpiness and oversensitivity?

I tried arguing with her, which, you guessed it, doesn’t work. I tried cajoling, which got me blank stares, I tried being firm, got more blank stares, and I started putting my foot down and saying that I’d either throw away some treat or revoke TV watching rights. The TV thing sometimes works, but I’m hating being mean mommy all the time.

Tonight I heaped on the positive feedback, took some time to cuddle and read a special story with her, before tucking her in we chatted a bit about our day, and then I carried her to bed and tucked her in gently. I’m hoping the positive feedback plus the extra attention helps fight the belligerence and I’m even thinking of instigating a reward for positive behavior chart. I sure hope something works because, I for one, am tired of seeing this face.


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  • Lol! It takes me back, and now the g’toddler is aiming on 2. (Ignoring the tantrum is working; reverse psychology is working with “can I have a hug? No! Ok, no hugs. ((hugs))”; Positive reinforcement and stern looks still working)

    Reminds me of a long ago Sunday comic of Better or Worse (when the now grown up kids were still little) the boy when fuming, stomping, kicking, screaming all through the day. Bedtime,

    “aren’t you going to kiss me good night?

    (“the way you acted all day…?)

    “But that’s when I need it the most!”

    Hard to remember and feeling like loving them sometimes, but oh, so true–that’s when they need it the most.

    Hang in there!

    🙂

    @flowersbyfarha

  • My kids are 8,9 and 14 and they all have sleeping disorders. I never know what I will get! positive behavior… 🙂

  • I am sooooo there with you. 😉

  • Have to laugh at that face. And yes, been there with my now almost six year old…and can feel it coming with my almost 3 year old. It’s tough. Wish I had some helpful advice for you other than I get where you’re coming from, and it helps to talk (and blog) about it!

  • You inspired me to take more time w/ A & just cuddle & chat w/ her before & after nap. OMG, it made such a difference in her temperament! It’s weird, but I think she’s better behaved when she sees me ignore K to pay attention to her…

    I’ll have to get tips on the behavior chart, I’ve been thinking about starting one for A, too, but I wasn’t sure how to go about it.

  • What a face! Great shot. Good luck with the positive reinforcement, I think it works.

  • I’m so there with you. My daughter is almost 3 1/2 and you described her to a T. I keep repeating “It is just a phase” hoping it will end soon.

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