There’s a cardinal rule in the Mommy Blogging world. You might not know it if you haven’t been around long enough, or you know, if you live under a rock.
Here’s the rule: You don’t ever attack Dooce on your blog. Actually, let me rephrase that, you don’t attack D*oce on your blog. (Gawd forbid the Google bots pick up on your rant.) Heck, you don’t even talk about Dooce for fear of riling up the Internets and being called an attention whore or something a little less polite.
Yeah, so, I’m about to completely disregard that rule. Sorry. Oh, and I’m not doing it for the attention. I’m doing it because there’s something that needs to be said and well, no one else is saying it.
Have I mentioned that BlogHer08 rocked? I know, I know. You’re heard it all, blah, blah, blah. Well, hear me out. There’s one last thing I want to share. To be honest there was a tiny bit of it that didn’t rock, and in fact that I wished I’d skipped.
Without going into agonizing detail, let me just say to the closing keynote speaker whose name I was never supposed to mention:
“Uh, hi, those readers that you so claim to love, that’s us. Yes, us, this room filled with 1000 women bloggers. We’re your audience. We’re your “support system.” So when you sit up there and look so bored and annoyed to be with us, well we feel a little slighted and offended. It would be nice if you could at least pretend to be one of us, or heck just pretend to like us, you know, for the entire hour you had to be in our presence. There are a lot of bloggers out there who look up to you and think you walk on water, and they deserve to be treated with a modicum of respect.
Also, we’re all trying hard to write great, compelling blogs. We all struggle every day to think up great posts. It’s just that the rest of us are also working full time at some other, not always so glamorous, job, so I’m sorry if we didn’t seem too sympathetic when you were talking about how hard it is to write a blog post every day. Kthnxbai.”
And while were on the taboo subject.
To the author of the SF Gate article about Mommy Bloggers making money from their blog, and everyone else who has ever written this story: The real story doesn’t lie in the fact that Dooce is earning enough money blogging to support her whole family. Yeah, that’s neat and all, and I know it sure makes for great press. But seriously, that’s old news. Let it go already.
The real story? Well, you missed the real story.
The real story lies in all the amazing, awesome mom writers putting themselves out there day after day despite the criticism and vitriol hurled at them by family, friends, and complete strangers when they share their stories. The real story lies in the awesome community that has evolved out of this brave new world. The real story lies in the women who are finding work thanks to the blogs that they sweat over every day while leading their “real” lives. The real story lies in the fact that the advertising/marketing types are finally sitting up and taking notice of this massive group of women who have toiled silently forever while quietly making the important decisions in their family’s every day lives. The real story lies in the countless Mommy Bloggers who aren’t famous or even remotely well known. The real story lies with us.
Mommy Blogging isn’t a get rich quick scheme and when the media portrays it as such it sells this empowering medium short and it cheats women out of a powerful communication tool that might not ever make them millionaires, but does allow them to connect with hundreds of others women who share their experiences, joys, and pain on a daily basis; a tough network of sisters fighting together in the trenches of motherhood that until now always felt so desolate in the thick of the battle.