Please attach your seatbelts, we’re going through a bit of turbulence

standard December 4, 2007 7 responses

I never thought it would be easy this whole going-back-to-work-and-sending-the-baby-to-daycare thing. I never pretended that I was looking forward to it, or that I thought it would be a walk in the park. But secretly I hoped that it would be hard on me, not the baby. C adjusted to daycare like a fish to water. If we’re honest I don’t even think she ever noticed that I was gone. One day it was all mommy all the time and the next it was “hey, did we tell you? She rolled over today!”

Little L? She’s not adjusting so well.

The first couple of days were rough, but I was expecting that. I haven’t prepped Little L for daycare the way I did C. But she’s a happy baby and I didn’t think it would be all that hard. Yet every evening when I pick up the girls I get to hear how much she cried and how unhappy she was, how she cried herself to sleep for each nap, and how she never wanted anyone to put her down.

You would think that after a full week of daycare things would have gotten better, but they didn’t really improve as the week went on, if possible they actually got worse; Friday was her worst day so far, according to one of the aides. I want to tell them how to fix it, but frankly I don’t know what would help. She’s a happy kid at home. She’ll play on her mat, or hang out next to me. She chatters and blows raspberries. She naps in her crib, or in her car seat, and she rarely puts up a fuss when going to sleep. So I just don’t know what to tell them.

I know she’ll adjust. I know she’ll grow attached to them. I know they’ll get to know her and her quirks. I know that she’ll never remember any of it, and honestly I probably won’t either. Deep inside I know all this, but I can’t help being sad knowing that tomorrow she’s going to cry, and probably cry a lot. At this point it’s all I can do not to cry myself.

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7 responses

  • This just breaks my heart. I’m so sorry you’re both going through a hard time and I hope it gets better soon.

  • I’m so sorry to hear that L’s having a tough time adjusting to daycare! I’m sure she’ll be fine soon, it’s only her 1st week… Some kids just need more time to adjust to changes in their routine. Just keep repeating to yourself ‘it’ll get better soon’.

  • (((hugs)))

    It must be so hard on you. Do your daycarers really need to give you a complete low down on how much she cried? That would make it worse for you.

  • Then cry! Get it out, you’ll feel better afterwards. I know how you feel because I’m feeling the same today. I want to rescue my “orphans” from daycare and take them home and lock the doors and never, ever leave the house again. And the fact that it’s only 11:30 and I’ve still got “miles to go” before 5 pm really, really sucks sometimes. [I’m really enjoying your blog…found it from “What’s Hot” Mom’s blog.]

  • These are normal feelings, what I still don;t think is normal is how soon we are expected to hand our babies over. It ain’t right.

  • Hugs.

    You don’t even know me but…

    Hugs.

    This just must be sooooo tough. I hope she adjusts for you fast!

  • Anonymous

    Have you ever considered taking your girls out of daycare and staying home with them? Its not right for young children to be ripped away from their mothers when they obviously love them so much. Neither the children or the mothers enjoy it… Simple solution is to stick together. It makes everybody a whole lot happier now and later you’ll have so many more precious memories of their childhood than you would have otherwise.

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