Instead of sitting around lamenting the fact that three of my friends are leaving (have I whined about that enough yet?) I’ve decided to get off my duff and try to meet some new people.
The other day I attended a playgroup which didn’t go so well. I didn’t really click with anyone.
This morning I attended a new playgroup. This one went much better. There were 5 very nice women with sweet kids all close to C in age. Despite the fact that all of the moms were older than me we had a good time. I’ll definitely be going back.
This evening we attended a BBQ with a different group. This was a group of parents of young(ish) children from our synagogue. This event didn’t go so well. The people were very different and we didn’t really click with anyone. There were 6 couples there with their kids. One of the kids was a little younger than C and the others were almost 3 and up. Despite the fact that most of the men there were lawyers we just didn’t have much in common with anyone.
On top of that one of the women really got my goat. I mentioned in passing that C had been on formula, and we started talking about the government pro-breast feeding adds. One person joked that soon there would be warning labels on formula. As we were all laughing about this the annoying woman commented that it would be good to have labels on formula cans that say something to the effect of “Breast feeding is the better option when it comes to feeding infants”. I said that the people who didn’t already know this weren’t the types who read warning labels. She pursued her point and said that people should know, because it was true. It just bugged me. We were in a relatively newly formed group. There was no way for her to know who had or had not breastfed their child. There was no way for her to know who had or had not tried. The others tried to help, but I was already done with her. I know it’s crazy, but I expect more openmindedness from the people around here. This is a very liberal, affluent area. There are few young parents. Many people have a lot of trouble conceiving. I just assumed that people were more open minded about the breastfeeding vs. formula feeding issues. Guess I was wrong again.
So the hunt for friends continues. We probably won’t join this last group, but at least I found a nice playgroup. I already have a book club. Any other thoughts of how to scare up some friends?