Since, beyond arranging for childcare and entertainment for the kids, I can't actively do anything about the fact that my husband is having surgery next week, I'm noodling the school issue.
Let me ask you a question. Below I'm posting two sets of school rules. You tell me which one makes you want to go learn. Maybe it'll help everyone understand why I'm struggling so much with what to do with the kids next year.
School 1, where C has been for two years now. As posted in each classroom.
1. Treat others and their property with kindness and respect
2. Take care of school property and treat campus with respect
3. Use playground and school equipment the way it was intended to be used
4. Do not use abusive language, gestures or physical aggression
5. Do not throw sand, stones, dirt, tanbark, pebbles or rocks
6. No personal toys, sports equipment, cards or electronic devices are allowed at school
7. Bicycles, scooters, skateboards and rollerblades must be stored off school grounds or in the bike storage area. No riding in the hallways.
8. No gum allowed on campus
9. Do NOT leave campus unless signed out by a parent/guardian in the office
10. No student, or unauthorized adult shall be in the! classrooms, library or multi-purpose room without supervision or !permission.
11. Report problems at school to an adult. Students who witness problems and fail to report them are just as responsible as those who caused the problem.
The end result is going to be the same: respectful kids in a safe environment. It's just that the first set of rules are... I dunno... more friendly? Easier to want to follow?
If you're anything like me after the third NO in the second set of rules your eyes glazed over and you started skimming.
If you're like most people you felt inspired by the first set of rules. They're rules that apply all life long, which is the premise of the school. They teach the kids lessons that will be valuable their entire lives.
It's a tough conundrum. Environment #1 is a private school meaning the kids don't grow their neighborhood community through school. Environment #2 is a public school, so we'd grow our local community, but lose on the school environment we love so much.
What would you do in our case? Which would you pick? (For the sake of argument, assume both schools rank similarly as far as academics go, the distinction lies in the realm of emotional education.)