People come to me for advice. A lot. They don’t do it because I’m smart and know what I’m talking about. I mean, for the most part I am and I do, but that’s not why they come to me. No, they come to me because they get exactly what they ask for. I don’t sugar coat the truth. I ask the hard questions. And I make them see what they did or maybe didn’t really want to see.
You’d think people would hate me for it, but they really don’t. Of course I’m not mean about it. I’m not going to tell someone that they’re making a horrendous mistake or anything, but I will help them see the truth for themselves. It’s a gift. The gift of calling things as I see them. And it’s not a gift I can take credit for.
See, I owe it all to my mother, the woman affectionately nicknamed “Big Mouth Maman*.”
My mother has never been one to hold back. As kids we used to cringe at some of her comments. You never knew who would be the target and you never knew if they’d hear what she said. We’d cringe, and then we’d laugh, because sometimes it’s pretty liberating to say whatever crosses your mind.
You’d be surprised at how much I learned from my mother’s “I don’t care what people think” attitude. Clearly, for starters, I learned not to care what other people think. And I learned that the truth doesn’t kill. But most importantly I learned to observe, to notice flaws, to notice attributes. Because after all, if you want to critique, you have to first see things worth critiquing.
I might comment in a slightly more roundabout way than my mother, but I speak the truth just as candidly as she does. And when my friends thank me for my advice and tell me that they come to me because they can trust me to be brutally honest, well that just makes me proud. Proud to have been taught by the best.
This post was written in honor of the Parent Blogger’s Mother’s Day Blog Blast and and Johnson’s second annual Celebrity Hand Me Down charity auction, which runs from through and features items donated by celebrity moms Gwyneth Paltrow and Jessica Alba.
Be sure to visit the Parent Blogger’s Blog to see all the other fun things that have been handed down to bloggers by their moms!
*Maman = Mom in French.