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Wednesday, May 15, 2013

The Next Big Thing: 8 Things You Wanted to Know About My Book But Didn't Think to Ask

A few weeks ago a relatively new reader, Pauline Wiles, author of the soon to be released Saving Saffron Sweeting,  asked me if she could tag me in the Next Big Thing "meme*" for writers. I don't often go in for that sort of thing, but these days it doesn't take much to convince me to talk about my book and I really liked the sound of the questions she was going to send my way. So here you have it! 8 things I bet you really wanted to know about my soon-to-be-published book!



What is the working title of your book?
Right now the book is called Aloha Can Mean Goodbye, but my publisher isn’t a huge fan of the name. She thinks it’s a bit too dark. While she waits for inspiration to strike, I’m secretly hoping she doesn’t come up with anything she likes better. The name has grown on me over the years!
What does the name say to you?

Where did the idea come from for the book?
I once heard that Jodi Picoult came up with her story ideas by asking herself “What if?” questions and riffing off of the possibilities she thought up. Ever since then I’ve played the same game.
After spending a lovely time at a friend’s wedding on the Big Island in Hawaii I started to wonder what would happen if a girl showed up there to get married and ran smack dab into her past upon arrival.
In my mind, the final scene, where the protagonist shows up to her wedding still undecided as to which man she’ll marry, played out. I couldn’t resist writing out the story that led up to that.
Ironically, as I wrote the story, that final scene rewrote itself and the story ended completely differently than I had originally anticipated.
  
What genre does your book fall under?
Some people are going to want to classify it as Chick-lit, but I believe the book falls squarely under Women’s Fiction. The issues the characters face are more challenging and profound than the issues generally dealt with in traditional Chick-lit.

Which actors would you choose to play your characters in a movie rendition?
I think I’d pick Jennifer Lawrence to play the lead. She’s got just the right amount of “girl next door” attitude to pull it off. For her best friend – a sweet redhead who keeps getting the raw end of deals – I think I’d choose either Emma Stone or Amy Adams. As for the other best friend who is a tall blonde model type? I have no clue. Have any suggestions?

What is the one-sentence synopsis of your book?
It’s a story about love and friendship and about recovering from the past so you can get on with your future.

Will your book be self-published or represented by an agency?
Just as I was starting to look into self-publishing options I lucked into a relationship with a local indie publisher, Sand Hill Review Press. I think indie publishing offers the best of both worlds – it’s a small publisher so I get a lot of say in how the book will turn out, but the editor has a lot of experience and has already guided me to turn the book into so much more than I could have done on my own. I’m thrilled with how things are turning out! I'm especially thrilled that I won't be alone in deciding when the book is "ready," what the cover art will look like, and all the other little details I was facing while looking into self-publishing. 

How long did it take you to write the first draft of your manuscript?
The first draft took just over a year. I still remember the high I felt when I typed the words “The End” at the end of the last chapter. Then I realized just how much more work still needed to be done and I came down off that writer’s high very, very quickly! It took me another 3 years to get the book finished and ready for publication.

What else about your book might pique the reader’s interest?
Everyone who has read it has loved it for different reasons. My sister loved the friendships, my friend loved the lover’s triangle, but everyone agrees that the characters really came to life for them and have stayed with them long after they were done reading the last words. I hope you’ll feel the same way!

Right then, this is the part where I should tag people, but I'm never a huge fan of that bit, so, if you've written, are writing, want to write a book consider yourself tagged! Come back and leave a comment with your blog post and I'll link to it! 

*A meme is sort of a modern day equivalent of a chain letter. Someone writes something, usually answering a series of questions, and then "tags" other people at the end, asking them to answer the questions on their own blogs. 


Monday, May 13, 2013

The Microsoft Stores; A few facts you'd never guess

(Want to win a $100 Microsoft Giftcard? Be sure to read to the bottom!)

I'm writing this post on a laptop. It's a PC. I bought it on Amazon just over two years ago. How did I pick it? It was the one on super sale on Black Thursday.

No. Really.

I'd tell you what it can do, but really, I have no clue. I just know that it turns on and it works. I need little else.

So when I was asked to go take a spin around a Microsoft store I said "Sure!" because I'm friendly like that, but I really had no expectations.

Okay, that's not entirely true. I expected a few computers, a couple games, and some boxes of software. I'm pretty sure I didn't expect a clean open space with incredibly friendly staffers who wanted nothing more than to let my kids play with each and every computer and tablet in the store while they answered a million and one of my questions.

You see, here's the deal.

That oldest kid of mine is turning 8 in four days. At school they're working on computers, creating Power Point Presentations, writing paragraphs, making flyers. (Whatever happened to teaching a little digital mouse to draw a box? Seriously, kids these days, they don't know what they're missing...)

I'm loath to share my laptop at home. Partly because I'm often on it working. And partly because... MINE... not sharing.

I know, I'm mean.

So it's about time for us to get the kids a computer of their own and since they're not quite as web savvy as me, it needs to be one with some easy to set up parental controls.

So I dragged the kids to a Microsoft store to see if they could help me on my quest.


It took the kids about thirty seconds to find a computer (each) and to sit down to play.



In no time at all Little L had badgered a store employee into loaning her a stylus.



And I just walked around bug eyed.

Windows 8 was really designed with touch screens in mind, so every single computer (and tablet, duh) in the store has a touch screen.

Every. Single. One.

It was like stepping into the future.

Of course for the kids it's a no brainer. The fact that my computer doesn't have a touch screen baffles them.

I watched them play around for a bit before accosting a lovely employee and starting my lengthy series of questions. If you have Windows 8 on a non-touch screen device you know how frustrating it can be. On a touch screen it becomes a thing of beauty.

My kids? Took to it like ducks to water.



While I learned about the Windows 8 Family Safety features they played with games, with the camera, and with the Fresh Paint app.

We left easily an hour or so after we had arrived. The staff let my kids play to their heart's content and even let me email myself the photos of themselves that the kids snapped.

As geeky as this sounds, we'll go back. The kids had a blast.

I expected a computer store and we found something much more than just that. Just like the Microsoft people had promised!

A few facts for you about the Microsoft stores

- There are 66 stores so far and more opening soon.
- Of those 66, 35 are considered "full line" stores and offer a "theater" in the back of the store.
- In these "theaters" the stores offer workshops to train people on various Microsoft softwares or other helpful things.
- These workshops are free. (Check the website for your local store's calendar.)
- If the store doesn't offer a workshop you'd like to take, talk to the manager. They'll create a workshop for you (and your team if you want!)
- These personalized workshops are... you guessed it... free.
-  Many stores offer summer "camp" options for kids!
- These camps are free.
- All the stores offer persona shopping sessions. They'll help you chose a computer, set it up, and customize it.
- Personal shopping sessions are free (you know, other than the price of the computer...)
- You can even host events in the "theaters." Events, like birthday parties, MNOs, scout gatherings, or just get togethers. You can play games on a huge screen and enjoy some refreshments. You don't even have to clean up.
- You guessed it. These events? Free. 
- Want an XBox game, but want to try it first?
- You can try it for free in the stores. 

Basically, all the services are free. You can even bring in a computer you bought elsewhere and they'll be happy to help you configure it.

I like my tech as much as the next gal, but I've never been drawn to hang out in computer stores like some people in my family. I have to admit that might just change now. It's refreshing to be greeted by staff that seemed genuinely happy that we were in the store without feeling like we needed to spend money to keep them that way.

Want to win a $100 Microsoft Giftcard? 
Leave me a comment below telling me what you hope to find in a Microsoft store!
(Winner will be drawn at random Monday, May 20th at 9pm PST and announced on this post. US residents only please.)  (All the bloggers listed as co-hosts below are also hosting giveaways! Feel free to enter as many as you wish!)

Want to know more?
Join me and other bloggers along with official Microsoft representatives for  a one hour #GoMicrosoft Twitter party on Tuesday, May 14 at 1p ET/noon CT/10a PT (you know, today...). All of the bloggers participating have checked out their own local Microsoft store and they'll be able to back up everything I've said!  RSVP via this Twtvite:  http://twtvite.com/GoMicrosoft
What: Microsoft stores across the country have more to offer than just tech products. Many Microsoft locations offer an Answer Desk, in-store events, personal computer training and much more! 
During this Twitter chat we'll be exploring all of the ways that the experts at Microsoft can help make your life easier. Your Microsoft store isn't just a place to shop, but a fun place to visit - for both you and your kids! 
Prizes: We will be giving away six prizes to randomly selected winners. Five winners who answer trivia questions during the party will receive $25 Microsoft retail store gift cards, and one grand prize winner will be chosen for a $500 Microsoft retail store gift card!


Hosts: @MicrosoftStore, @theMotherhood, @CooperMunroe, @EmilyMcKhann

Co-Hosts:
Heather, Sprittibee - @sprittibee (THAT'S ME!)
Candy, Mommypalooza - @mommypalooz
Kelly, Kansas City Mamas - @KCMamaKelly
Kristen, Dine and Dish - @DineandDish
Mara, Kosher on a Budget - @kosheronabudget
Claudya, Unknown Mami - @UnknownMami
Heather, Rookie Moms - @rookiemoms
Jessica, It’s My Life - @kikarose
Jen, The Mom Reviews - @themomjen
TerriAnn, Cookies and Clogs - @cookiesANDclogs
Divina, Dancing Hot Dogs - @DancingHotdogs
JessieLeigh, Parenting Miracles - @micropreemies
Marianna, Green Mama’s Pad - @GreenMamasPad
Rachel, Rachel Ferrucci - @RachelFerrucci
Sarah, Sarah’s Cucina Bella - @SarahWCaron
Lisa, Crazy Adventures in Parenting - @crazyadventures
Clay, Dad Labs - @daddyclay
Kim, Prairie Mama - @prairiemama
Stephanie, The Candid Pastor’s Wife - @stephaniepete
Christine, Boston Mamas - @bostonmamas
Christy, Quirky Fusion - @QuirkyFusion
Mackenzie, The Centsible Family - @TheCentsibleFamily
Erika, Musings of a SAHM - @MusingsSAHM

Please note: I am being compensated for this post by The Motherhood for Microsoft. As always all thoughts and opinions are mine and mine alone.

Wednesday, May 08, 2013

6 Actually Useful Things I Learned On Pinterest

I've made friends on Twitter and deepened them on Facebook, but Pinterest is the social media network has taught me quite a few truly handy tips and tricks that have become regular parts of our daily routines.

Don't believe that there's actually anything of value over there? Well, here are 6 tips that I couldn't be happier I discovered. 



1) The spoon on the pasta pot trick

My kids eat pasta... a lot... and it always drove me batty when the pot would overflow all over the stove top. Who would have thought that something as simple as just laying a wooden spoon over the top of the pot would keep the pasta water where it was supposed to be?


2) Fixing a skipping DVD with... toothpaste

Every weekend my husband gets up with the kids, eats breakfast, feeds them breakfast, pops a movie into the DVD player, and comes back to bed. We relish those lazy weekend mornings. To me they're the consolation prize for never having had my 3rd child.

To keep the movie selection wide and the kids' attentions captivated we supplement our own collection with movies borrowed from the library so, all too often, the kids have to come find me to tell me that the movies are freezing or skipping.

I used to shrug and say "oh well." Now I just reach for the toothpaste.

This trick has never not worked.


3) Picking the right bell peppers

This is one of those things that I learned and would never have guessed was even possible to learn or even care about before I stumbled upon it one night.

Bell peppers have a gender. This gender affects how many seeds you'll find inside the pepper. No. Really.

Might not be a big deal to some, but I eat a lot of bell peppers, and I'm really glad I now know how to pick the ones with fewer seeds.


4) Pretty dish soap bottle

Like everyone else, I'm constantly doing dishes. As such, I don't particularly want to store the dish soap under the sink, because that's a pain. But I also don't really want to store it next to the sink, because it's ugly.

Then I complicated things even more by starting to buy the Costco brand dish soap which comes in gallon jugs. Try fitting that on the edge of your sink.

Instead of refilling whatever last plastic bottle of dish soap I used, I inspired myself from this Pinterest find and classed up my sink. The rest of the kitchen might look like a war zone, but my sink is well accessorized.


5) Another clever use for toothpaste

Just over a year ago we moved into our new house. Some pictures went right up, others... took a while. The easy ones went up because the previous owners had kindly left from nails in the walls. The others needed a little more planning and so they languished.

Until we figured out the toothpaste trick. You and your bare walls are welcome.


6) A radically different way to organize your clothing drawers

There's little I hate more than folding laundry, unless it's having folded everything nicely and then messing it all up to get to that shirt on the bottom.

And then I discovered this trick and angels sang.

Okay, maybe they didn't sing per se, but I sure whistled a happy tune as I transformed my drawers. Now I can see all of my shirts at a glance and I don't have to go digging to see if anything good is hiding at the bottom of the pile.


Every time I try doing something in a new way my husband looks at me, raises an eye brow, and says "Pinterest?" It's almost become a family joke. But what can I say? He's usually right.

Coming soon? 6 recipes I found on Pinterest and actually loved.

Tuesday, May 07, 2013

What if we raised our kids to be more like Charles Ramsey?

A few weekends ago, after a leisurely day spent walking around San Francisco with my sister and her fiance, we all headed back towards their apartment to say goodnight before making our way home.

We'd been together since the early afternoon and the kids were tired from all the walking and window shopping. It was Sunday night and I was a bit anxious about getting them into the car fast so we could get home to put them to bed at a somewhat reasonable hour.

It's always when you're anxious to be somewhere else that fate interferes.

So there we were, dusk, warm day, tired kids, tired parents, tired aunt and soon-to-be-uncle. Bellies full from a great dinner and facing an hour long drive home. And that's when the couple just a few feet from us morphed from 'random couple on a bench' to 'potentially explosive situation hard to deal with in front of kids.'

She stood up, tried to get away from him, he grabbed her arm and held her, she crashed to the ground, and he fell on top of her.

Hard.

The four of us looked at each other.

The girl lay on the ground and curled into a ball, sobbing her heart out. The boy stood over her, doing nothing.

Every bone in my body was screaming to keep walking, to get my kids away from the situation, to just go get in the car and drive home. But she lay there and just sobbed.

The kids stared at her, at us, and back at her again.

And that's when I realized that, as much as I wanted to hustle them away, to shield them from what seriously looked like an abusive relationship situation, I couldn't.

"Is she okay?" We asked the boyfriend.

He shrugged, looked at her helplessly. He babbled about how she was his girlfriend, had been for years. They were just visiting. He just wanted to go back to their hotel.

It was 6pm and they were both utterly wasted.

She struggled to sit up and we helped her get back onto the bench. He handed her her shoe and her sunglasses and she tried to put her sunglasses on her foot.

M asked if we needed to call the cops.

And all this time the girls gaped.

We talked to them for a bit, silently assessing the situation. In the end we cancelled the call to the police, she got her shoe on her foot and her glasses on her head. He helped her to stand up with gentle touches, caring touches. They walked away, she, in front, like she was still mad at him about something, him trailing behind, trying to catch up.

We'll never know what really happened, but before we let them go we were all pretty confident that what had at first looked like an abuse situation was nothing more than a regular spat exacerbated by too much booze.

The girls still talk about the strange girl who tried to put her glasses on her foot.

I still think about the urge to walk away, to not get involved.

I grew up in Paris, a city where, if you're looking, you can find gnarly situations on every street corner. I learned early on that getting involved was dangerous and not recommended. I grew up looking the other way.

I don't want my kids growing up that way. I want them to know that they can help. That they can make a difference.

Yesterday a man stopped and didn't look the other way when a girl screamed for help from behind his neighbor's front door. Today that girl and at least two others are safely reunited with their families. Families they hadn't seen for 10 years.

He could so easily have walked away, have pretended he hadn't heard, have refused to get involved. So many people would.

I'm glad we're teaching our children to be more like him and less like them.

1 in every 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.* 
More than 5 children die every day from the result of child abuse.** 

What if more people were like Charles Ramsey? Would those numbers go down?

*NCADV.org
**Childhelp_USA.com 

 
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